Type Three

The Enneagram Type 3's lost childhood message is "It is not okay to have your own feelings and identity." Type 3s often grew up in environments where they felt that their own feelings and desires were not acknowledged or valued, and they may have learned to focus on achieving success and recognition in order to feel validated and accepted.

As a result, Type 3s may have developed a pattern of adapting to the expectations of others and suppressing their own emotions and identity in order to fit in and succeed. They may have a tendency to prioritize their image and success over their own authentic desires and needs, and may struggle with vulnerability and emotional expression.

The lost childhood message of "It is not okay to have your own feelings and identity" can be a deeply ingrained belief for Type 3s, and can drive their behavior in relationships and other areas of their life. Understanding and working through this message can be an important part of growth and development for Type 3s, helping them to develop a stronger sense of self and authenticity, and a more balanced and healthy approach to relationships and personal fulfillment.