Type nine

The Enneagram Type 9's lost childhood message is "Your presence doesn't matter." Type 9s often grew up in environments where conflict or confrontation was discouraged, and may have learned to minimize their own needs and desires in order to maintain peace and harmony.

As a result, Type 9s may have developed a pattern of avoiding conflict and prioritizing the needs of others over their own. They may be highly adaptable and easy-going, but may also struggle with assertiveness and standing up for themselves.

The lost childhood message of "Your presence doesn't matter" can be a deeply ingrained belief for Type 9s, and can drive their behavior in relationships and other areas of their life. Understanding and working through this message can be an important part of growth and development for Type 9s, helping them to develop a stronger sense of self and individuality, and a more balanced and healthy approach to relationships and decision-making.